Democracy and Family Values

The phrase 'Family Values' these days typically refers to a Moral arrangement constituted by a strong father, a compliant wife, and obedient children.  While a staple of Conservative rhetoric, a Liberal variation of it has been urged by Lakoff, which he classifies as encoding 'maternal' values, consisting in a 'nurturing' relation between Government and Citizenry.  However, that alternative is as inappropriate to a Democracy as is what it opposes--they each connote a Parent-Child representation of what is presumably a system of self-rule.  Furthermore, since, as Hegel, via Kant, argues, Political and Moral relations are autonomously constructed, they are falsified by the representation of their terms as 'brothers' and/or 'sisters', each of which is a connection that is involuntarily given.  So, the concept of Family Values, in any of its permutations, is antithetical to that of Democracy.